The Truth About Why Self-care Alone is Not Enough

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The facemask wears off, candles lite eventually blows out. But the one thing that remains is the human need for face-to-face connection.

With the mainstream using self-care as a marketing tactic to indulge in pampering products in isolation, it’s no wonder why we ignore the third dimension of mindfulness: how we relate to our past, ourselves, and others.

Without a doubt, we need our time in solitude, to reflect, process emotions, and connect to our higher selves. Engaging in intentional active self-care is imperative when it comes to your mental health and self-discovery. However, we can’t ignore the human need for connection and apparently, were in the face of a loneliness epidemic in America. Could this be true? Being that it's never been easier to connect with whoever, whenever? Well, just know you're not alone.

According to an American sociology study, there’s an increase of folks feeling disconnected from those physically around them.

When we're not mindfully aware of this, we start to notice how we put ourselves in a vicious cycle. Think about it; our phones are glued to our hands out of the fear of missing out. When we began to recognize this, we can start to increase our engagement and overall health.

Here are three crucial reasons why social self-care should not be dismissed from your self-care toolbox.

1. Impact your physical health.

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Being around other individuals in our community doesn’t only impact our emotional needs, our physical bodies benefit as well. Several chronic health conditions, such as pain, drug abuse, alcohol abuse, and depression are associated with isolation. It doesn’t end there, studies have shown loneliness gives our bodies the same results of smoking 15 cigarettes a day.

When engaging in an intentional community, we can start to shift our habits into healthy ones. Which leads me to number two.

2. You're more likely to keep up with your self-care habits.

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I’m sure you’ve heard of this concept: if you surround yourself with people with healthy habits you are more likely to adopt and maintain them?

Well, there’s some truth to that. That my friend is called social cognition? According to the psychologist Paul Marsden Ph.D. paper called “Memetics and Social Contagion:

He states

“When we are unsure of how to react to a stimulus or a situation, these theories suggest that we actively look to others for guidance and consciously imitate them.”

So why not keep company that is intentional and can hold you accountable on the same journey to inner peace.

3. One word, humanity.

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Uniting together to share your personal experiences with each other is a firm confirmation that you are not alone, literally.

At times, when we're alone in our bedroom, we get wrapped out in our minds in a 'feedback loop of hell", as Mark Mason calls it.

You know, mentally replaying “failed experiences,” repeating conversations on things we wish we didn't say and then feel bad that we're wasting our time focus on things that can't not be changed. (no shade, we've all been there)

When we share with others, it brings a sense of common humanity, to know that we are not alone. We began to recognize that everyone fails, make mistakes, and gets it wrong sometimes, which brings forth self-compassion.

Most importantly, it’s fun.

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Oh don’t forget to share this article with an intentional friend, trust me, she’ll thank you later.